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 Hi Natasha,
I think that your site here is fantastic. What a great and noble idea to help people in similar situations.
I am a Russian speaking American who is looking to correspond with, but not necessarily marry a Russian woman. I am 25 years old, and while I would certainly marry a Russian woman I don't have any plans to get married right away.
I am seeking to find out more about Russian culture, and to practice my language skills. I would love to meet a Russian woman. I would marry her if I fell in love. Here is the kicker. I can't go to Russia, at least anytime soon. It is a major goal of mine to travel to and hopefully even live in Russia for a few years in the future. I guess my question is, how do I find Russian woman to talk to and learn about the culture whom are not necessarily interested in immediate marriage?" 
Chad

Dear Chad,
I believe that it is even better, that you have a lot of time before your trip to Russia. It will give you an opportunity to get to know some Russian ladies, make friends with them and, later it will help you to make the right choice if you decide to marry a Russian. Where are many wonderful girls who deserve happiness and the better life then they can have in Russia. Living in America made me sure that mentality of Russian women is very different from many Western ladies. Traditional Russian woman puts her family first, she does not take her man for granted, she appreciates people and things, she is a lot of fun, she is very feminine.

The positive thing is that most of decent Russian women are not in a hurry to get married. Many of them feel like you. They want to get a friend from the other country first: to get to know him, to find out more about his country. On the opposite, those who concern with getting married right away and leave Russia as soon as possible are not the best choice. I would even say, it’s a risky adventure!

Start your correspondence with different women since narrowing your search and finding a good match is a very responsible and important task. I advice you to check those Internet sites which let women post their ads themselves (like, for example, One&Only, Classifieds in Excite, Yahoo, etc.). I would not recommend you International or Russian Dating companies who recruit brides all over the Russia in order to get more profit. The other option is to check sites of Russian communities on the Internet. Check their message boards and reply to the ads that you liked the most. You can also post your own message there. (These sites are usually bilingual). While you are corresponding with women from Russia you can always count on my assistance. I will do my best to help you to learn how to see the difference between those who are sincere and those that dissemble to get what they want.
Good luck,
Natasha

Privet Natasha,
I guess I would fall into the category of Love Lost. I traveled to Moscow and Ekaterinburg a year ago. I found a great woman Val and her 14 year old daughter Julia and invited them to be with me in Las Vegas. For the first month everything went well. By the second month Val was restless and missing her busy life in Russia. By the third month Val was homesick and needed to return home so we did not marry. She wants me with her in Russia, but I could not earn a living there. I still call and write Julia because she is like my true daughter and loves me. I will continue to travel and search for someone to love, but, I guess, not everyone wants to leave Russia."
Ed.

Dear Ed,
I feel really sorry for you, because it looks like you have met the Russian woman who was very sincere in her desire to find her soul mate abroad. Obviously, she was attracted to you as a person. She did not consider the marriage as a way to escape from Russia. On the other hand, I can understand this woman, who had to leave the United States and You because she got homesick. I know how it is difficult to overcome the transition period and acclimatize yourself to the totally different life style abroad from my own experience. This process can be even more painful if your fiancé got used to stay busy at her home city.

The first month abroad is usually very exciting for Russian women. Lots of new impressions may compensate the lack of relatives, friends, and co-workers, which she had left in Russia. But after a while this loss usually becomes more and more noticeable. For some women it may become almost unbearable…

During this difficult for her period, try to help your fiancé. The best solution is to make her life very active. Introduce her to your friends and relatives. Ask them to invite her to the movie, or for a walk, while you are working. Sign her to the sport club. Ask her to help you with redesigning of your apartment or house, etc. Anything that makes your Russian friend feel “useful” will work. Of course, the best option for the intelligent Russian lady is to find a job (even part-time). Staying busy will definitely help her to relax and she will eventually stop concentrating on the things she left behind the ocean.

I wish you not to give up. I will write you more and give some practical advices in my next emails. 
Natasha

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